The Great Dilemma.

[Monkey]

My mother would send me to my room. I would play with the toys in my room for awhile and once I got bored, I would sneak across the hall to my mother's room and put on some of her jewelry. My mother thought it was adorable and wasn't mad any more. *never stayed in trouble for long* ^_^

[Jo]

I got hit on the bottom quite a few times =D I see nothing wrong with a bit of hitting on the bum if you're naughty. I can't see how else children are supposed to learn.

[Uber Loodle]

I don't see the problem with minor hitting if you've done something quite wrong, I think that we baby our children these days.
Not that I would know, since I was born in 92...bbuutt...
Like, in the old days, you might lightly hit your child, or let them play with toys with lead paint, or let them ride their bike without their helmet and you weren't a bad parent. I kinda think we're super over protecting our kids, and shutting them out to everything that could make them sneeze/cough/fall/laugh/become obese.
Like my friend's old elementary school banned cupcakes to prevent obesity. I was like, "CUPCAKES ARE PART OF CHILD HOOD!"
I think I've rambled on too much at this point.

[Ice]

You were born in the same year I was? I didn't realize that! I always thought you were a year younger >_>;

The reason schools are forced to cut down on the obesity-causing stuff is because parents are doing a crap job of it. Kinda sucks There's actually a movement for "free-range kids" that you'd probably be interested in, Lauren ^_^ freerangekids.com I believe, it was started because a news reporter got a lot of flak for letting her 9 year old take the subway home alone in NYC.

Jun 6, 2008 23:25:42 GMT -5 Sorie said:

My mom just always counted to ten in this menacing voice and I'd stop whatever I was doing. She never once got to ten. I was too terrified to find out what happened if she did. xD

Hmm, that's interesting

Monkey: Aww, that's cute! See, I had this problem with being a klutz and would break jewelry (thread broke on a strand of pearls, various clasps broke with necklaces, and lots of earring backs went missing). D:

[Uber Loodle]

Well, letting your 9 year old on the subway alone in NYC?
That I see as wrong, since theres a lot of twisted people out there, not as many as older times. ^^

We don't have parents that care here.
Kids are lucky if they have parents who don't encourage drug use. ^^

[Ice]

Urgh, speaking of parents that do that, there's this one girl in my gym class who can't do anything except talk about how she does drugs and sleeps with all these guys - she's waiting to try acid with HER MOM.

[Uber Loodle]

Sounds like a typical conversation with a druggie. =P

[Uber Loodle]

So I've got a new dilemma.
My best friend has this friend.
And she's basically falling in love with him.
And he says he loves her.
And she thinks she loves him.
And I love her like this because she's so happy and I want to support her in her happiness and all.

But.
She met him online.
He lives in another state.
And let's just say he's too old for us to be thinking about like that.
She knows I don't approve of this but now they're talking about meeting each other and she's been hurt in the past and I don't want to see her fall again.
So I don't know what to say to her.

[Sorie]

First off. Love (at least in the context you seem to be using it in) is impossible online. There are just too many aspects that can't be covered by pixeled words. Being comfortable with someone in person is a whole new world from having a conversation online. And it is so easy to lie through a computer, it's really just. Implausible.

I'd urge you to keep letting her know it's a bad idea, because the sooner she gets out, the less it will suck. If she continues to not listen to you, then it's her choice. There's only so much you can do, but make sure you're there for her if anything bad happens. Heaven help her if she ends up giving him her address or something ridiculous like that.
I have a friend who goes in circles with madness similar to this, and I don't know your friend, but being straightforward and harsh didn't seem to effect my friend at all in her decision; I only ended up like a broken record playing for the deaf.
But then again, it really all depends on the person, since everyone reacts differently to certain things.
I hope this helped, but it probably didn't. :/

[Jo]

I concure with Jen. Good, too many of my friends have complained to me about their online relationships and how they're real and in love and grr. It's basically lust. Lust and strong emotion that ISN'T love.

[Uber Loodle]

Actually, that was sort of helpful.
Because I know she has given out her address before.
And she gave him her number, which is only a few clicks away from him finding her house.

I'm also somewhat relieved by the fact that there are other people out there that do this and not just her. XD

[Jo]

Yeah, I bet pretty much everyone who frequently goes online has had some kind of over the top lust for someone else. Heck, even I did. But that was about 4+ years ago o.0

[Uber Loodle]

I really don't chat with people I don't know online, other than on neo obviously.

Some people are into all the chat rooms and such, but I tend to stay in the places with the least amount of pedafiles. XD

[Jo]

ROFL. I used to a huge chatroom fanatic. I'd usually just do what I do now and lurk, though. I did make some nice friends in chat rooms when I was 14ish, but I don't have their addresses anymore.

[Anne]

Lust is sex, Jo. And what Lauren described didn't sound like lusty-wrong feelings, at least not from her friend's end. What it is is infatuation. Passionate, but ultimately short lived and unsustainable. The problem is, a lot of young people mistake everything for love, when its just not. :/