The Great Dilemma.

[Uber Loodle]

She invited him to the beach.
But thankfully it's four hours away from him and he's not coming.
So I don't have to meet him.
I have no idea when she's meeting him.
She's dead set on it though. DX

[Sorie]

Have you told her there are several people across the world who wish to do many violent things to her and throw assorted objects due to her idiotic choices?

You know, you'd think that would come off as a slight hint, but I guess not?

[Uber Loodle]

She knows.
I have actually thrown object at her.
And told her to stop before she gets hurt. Mentally or physically.
Bah.

[Uber Loodle]

I felt the need to gloat here.
I feel horrible, because she's in so much pain.
He labeled her his "girlfriend" a few weeks ago.
But.
He has a girlfriend.
Like, a real girlfriend.
Who apparently knows about my friend and doesn't care. o.0
But, he told her.
And I'm really hoping she starts to get over him.

[Ice]

I can't really blame you for gloating... major case of "I told you so" right there. I'm guessing he's done this kind of stuff before, hence the real girlfriend not caring.

[Uber Loodle]

Well, the "I told you so" aspect is kinda gone, as she invited him to her house a week or so ago, and apparently she was going to tell him to come over again last night.
It's the weirdest thing though. He has an of-age girlfriend right where he lives and a 15 year old girlfriend 3 hours away. He claims he's eventually going to choose, and it's like, killing my friend because she's working so hard to make sure he chooses her. At this point, I've pretty much backed out of the whole situation and am encouraging my other friends who don't approve to do the same.
*dies*

[Ice]

That is majorly screwy. How'd things end up?

[Uber Loodle]

She broke things off with him.
But still talks to him.
And still wants his girlfriend to be out of the picture.
But she's not...obsessed anymore.
Which is real good.

[Ice]

Still a little screwy, but a lot better than before, I guess.

[Uber Loodle]

Indeed it is.

It makes my day how off topic these boards become after 5 pages. XD

[Ice]

It's still on topic! D:

[Uber Loodle]

By golly she's at it again.
She broke up with the first one. We'll call him A.
She met another one. Let's call him B.
She met A after like, 6 months of talking to him and she was 'in love' with the dude.
She's got B's phone number after talking for him for like, 3 days, and met him.
So he picked her up at school.
WELL, apparently back in 7th grade, some guy stalked her. So her laptop is occasionally monitored by the police.
So guy B is 23, and she texted him and IMed him about meeting her at the school.
So they got caught.
She says they didn't do anything naughty, and I believe her.
But guy B got arrested, they brought my friend to the police station and took her laptop.
Then there's all these article in papers, revealing her texts to guy B about naughty things and guy A.
Now she occasionally talks to, but doesn't have feelings for guy A anymore, but apparently, guy A is going to be arrested, which caused to to burst into a fit of tears today.
And she could possibly have to testify against both guys.
(Guy B was arrested for charges other than being with a 15 year old, he's apparently not a very nice man anyway)
Now, one of my friend isn't to speak to her anymore, and me and one of my guy friends is trying to help her. But honestly, we're all out of ideas.
I'm done ranting now.

[Ice]

Waiiit, whaat? *is confused* Why are guys B/A getting arrested, again?

Also, monitoring laptops... is a little scary. D: I didn't think that was legal. But the newspaper articles... she shouldn't have been doing it but to have the whole business, texts and all, exposed in print? That just sucks.

[Anne]

If she's under-age, Ice, and they're of age (which, as I gathered, is the case) then if they were ding the diddle it's classed as Satutory Rape. Even if they weren't "doing it" there are probably offenses against a minor that they can be charged with and if guy B has done anything like it before then the police would probably be all over him.

To be honest your friend sounds like she has a lot of issues, none of which you, Lauren, or your friend will be able to help her with. I just wouldn't even bother. No comfort, nothing - its probably all fascilitating some inner need for attention/drama/whatever and it isn't healthy for either party.

There really is nothing for you to do. You can tell her she's being a no-brain moron, that she can't distinguish love from crush/lust and that she's going to get hurt if she keeps it up until the cows come home but until SHE comes to that realization and snaps out of the fantasy you're really wasting your breath.

[Sorie]

Amen to Anne.
She clearly didn't learn before, and she won't learn now.